You are Not Everyone’s Sugar

It is okay if some of them don’t like you

I was a person that always trying to please everyone in order to be accepted or simply to make them feel happy with me around, but in fact “we cannot please everyone” and that is okay. Even we tried our best to make everyone happy, we won’t ever succeed to do this kind of job. Why? In this article, I would like to tell you several why..and by knowing this, I hope it can help you to feel okay if you might heard someone talk shits behind your back or simply don’t like you.

1. Everyone has their own perspective to judge you

We already knew that everyone is different. The difference level between one and another might be different, but it still different. We have difference level of knowledge, mindset, experience, taste of humor, etc that shape us into different person. As a result of the difference, the way others see you as a person might be different. Some people might laugh at your jokes, love your curl hair, congratulate on your succeed but maybe the others will don’t give a fuck about what the hell going in your life or even bad mouthing behind your back. But again, that is totally okay. You don’t have to change your hair color just because there’s someone doesn’t like it. Because even you change your color hundred times, there will be always a person that doesn’t like it. As long as what you do isn’t something that hurt others..just do it.

2. You are not perfect, accept that

You are not perfect, even God the perfection one still have haters. Remind yourself, that you are only a human with a lot of imperfections you can’t control. You won’t always meet others expectations and that is okay. Again, as long as what you do isn’t hurt others..just do it.

3. You can’t control others mind

The only one that you can control is yourself. You can’t control what might others think about you..what is their perception about you. Because that is their business with their mind, your business is only do the right thing for your mind. And in my opinion, the right thing for your mind is don’t mind what others might think about you. Live your life like there’s no people will judge you, with a note.. as long as you don’t hurt others.

It might be not easy to feel okay when there’s someone in the room that doesn’t like you. Train your mind that you won’t ever be everyone sugar and no one ever could be. You can’t always meet their expectations. Just do the thing that makes you feel right, because you have to be sugar for yourself and sweetened your life. And do care for some that really matters for you, like your mom.

Thank you for reading ❤️