You Do You
We live in a society where they think they know the best not only for themselves but also for others. They have their own set of rules to measure what is “normal” and “not”, to give you a sense of which one is acceptable and which one is not. In the end, they love to put judgment toward our attitude and make us feel bad about ourselves, while actually, we are not. We tend to hide in a shadow, we try our best to be fit in our society and if we are not we simply wear a mask.. a mask that you always put on & put off depends on who’s the person we face.
Sadly, sometimes we have to hide our true selves from the person who supposedly being very close to us. We hide to make them feel good about our surroundings. We can’t just be blunt & naked in front of them for the sake to make them feel happy or simply, not disappointed. Well, we are living in a trap, especially when we live in a country where everyone loves to rule each other’s lives. And unfortunately, somehow we don’t have any other choices than follow the rules. Because, simply we, humans, don’t like to feel “left-out” and “weird”.
I wrote this, to myself and to people who think they will be labeled as “bad” if they show their true selves to others. It’s a note about accepting your strengths and flaws, whether those flaws are self-identified or just things that you’re perfectly happy about but that other people seem to have a problem with. I wrote this for people like me, who just want to do their own thing and stop caring about how their desires, motivations, opinions, and decisions are being questioned and judged by others. I wrote this for all of us who feel pressured to follow rules, meet expectations & fulfill obligations. Being yourself should be the easiest thing in the world. So instead of trying to change you, let’s celebrate what it means to be you. Appreciate yourself! It’s the f*ckin time. Just remember one rule, just be you as long as you don’t cause harm to other people.
I know, to accept you for who you are will be home work that you’d never finished. It’s a long way process, but let’s start by doing mental redecorating. Well, it requires only two steps; a. identify your weakness, which the term “weakness” itself sounds “judgy”.. let’s called it “your thing” then and b. refresh the way you look at or deal with them. Just remember, nothing wrong with being “you”. Well, again.. it’s not that easy. We are humans too afraid of being judge by others who have a different set of rules. I took learning from the book that I’ve read on how turning weakness into strengths is as simple as reframing the way you see it. For example, instead of calling it “nerdy” we can call it “smart” or “a future investor” and instead of calling it “pessimistic” we can call it “realistic”. It’s all starts with our “mindset”.
You know? you can’t please everyone, so you have got to please yourself. You will never be able to please everyone. There will be someone who thinks that you should marry at 26 while you wanna marry if you are only ready, or do prayer just because they think it will help you not going to hell. There will always expectations toward you. But remember, you have the full authority of yourself and knowing, asking for, pursuing, and preserving what makes you happy may be selfish. But it’s also smart! because we might die tomorrow, hence thinking about death helps us focus on our energy on living the best life we can.
I spend most of my life hating myself, always question why I am so open to people who might be not worth my openness, but the more I think about it, the more I can’t change it. I am a person with extroverted energy, connect with people is the activity I love. Well, maybe some people will judge me as someone who doesn’t have privacy or boundary but hey.. let’s reframe it to be “friendly”. At this point in time, I don’t want to give a shit to people who are not worthy of my attention. Let them be them.. and let me be me.
We are too busy think about other’s opinions, while in fact, no one thinks about you that much. Everybody is also busy with their lives. At the end of the day, when no one is left in the room, you only have yourself. So, better with someone who can let you do what you wanna do or being alone is not bad. It’s better to be with someone who makes you feel good rather than being around a person or a bunch of people who make you feel fuck up.
Last but not least, do whatever you think is best for yourself, march to your own beat, focus on what you have to get done, do you, means to do what’s right for you, whatever that may be. Listen to this song and celebrate yourself. Be authentic :)
